Serene validation

Essentially we all have a desire to feel 'validated' . The need to feel whole and complete; accepted and loved for who we simply are. Through my own life I have come to the raw conclusion that most of us seek validation through superficiality. Forming relationships for fear of being "left out", conforming to the ways of social sectors to feed our feelings ambiguity. In essence, being someone other than who we really are, because of the fear of rejection. After all, how can I have validity if people don't 'like' me? I've never found the answer to the question honestly. So many people break their backs by carrying the burden of making people "happy". There's nothing wrong with bringing happiness and joy to lives of others, but I think something is wrong if making someone else happy means you must rob yourself of your personal joy. I am truly thankful that I have been enlightened with this while I'm still "young" and have plenty of time to grow into myself. Yet it still saddens me to see so many (more than I care to count) caught up in the frivolous politics of social groups. I learned a long time ago that those who really love and care about you will be there when the group has long forgotten you ever existed.

I find my validation in something no one can take away from me. "My heart song," those things that lie within my heart carrying me from one level to the next. For the validation I sought in the past has been achieved through having love for myself, accepting every part of me --the good and bad. I find my validation in owning the 'inner peace' of being able to be who I am no matter what others may think of me. Not concerning myself with the fear of judgement and rejection any longer. I don't have a million friends, but the few I have love me for me, and that is all I need. And I wouldn't trade their loyalty for all the fame one man could even dream to have. For in the big scheme of things, validation comes from knowing who we are as a person, then in turn impacting the world around us. Life isn't always calm and peaceful, yet still there's that inner voice telling me "I am with you, there's no need to be afraid any longer." Sweet serenity...lighting a ray of hope for me...I am free